A young university student’s parents were waiting for him to go back to his hometown where it is located far away from his university to celebrate a festival. They cleaned up the house, baked many delicious biscuits, and did many preparations to celebrate this festival with their lovely son. Unfortunately, the parents received an awful news by a call from the police just two weeks before the festival and they were told that their son had just passed away because he was bullied by his friends in the university. Bullying is not a fresh issue in Malaysia and this issue is becoming very critical now as compared to the past ten years, but the issue of bullying is always ignored by people because the incident did not happen on them. Idris (2015) claimed that a dysfunctional family always leads to a bullying incident.
Children who are originated from a dysfunctional family often feel sad and lonely. The root cause of dysfunctional family is the act of some unfitting conducts from parents such as having fights regularly between themselves and being abusive to their own children (Kalpana, 2016). Children’s feelings will be overlooked and they will be socially isolated because they are forced to take sides whenever their parents are in a conflict or when they are mistreated by their parents. As for those children who grow up in such a dysfunctional family, their sentiments will become easily disturbed because they have no clue on how to prevent their parents from arguing with each other or being abusive to them. Thus, children will feel the sadness and loneliness in themselves if they come from a dysfunctional family.
Children who feel sad and lonely are most likely to envy other people who live happily every day and are always surrounded with friends. Gordon (2017) stated that kids every so often ensnared by the comparison set-up and envy will exist when people want something that another person has. In other words, since they are lacking of their family’s love and care, they often feel envious and jealous of people who are always loved and cared by their parents. Idris (2015) pointed out that seeing parents fight and shout at each other will demonstrate to the children the negative manners. Therefore, when the jealousy becomes greater, children who are seriously affected by the offensive behaviour of their parents may replicate their parents’ action and bully other people in order to take out their bitterness. For instance, they attempt to make people who always receive the love from their parents to feel miserable just like what they felt by bullying them. As a consequence, sad and lonely children who are the casualties of broken family will make them become envious and jealous of other people.
The feelings of envy and jealousy result in bullying behaviour which leads to bullying. Envy and jealousy are responses to inadequacy of something and to the danger of losing something or someone. Envious or jealous people use bullying as an implement to get what they want. It was informed that there are over one out of every five students are getting bullied. (National Centre For Educational Statistics, 2016). For example, the children who come from a dysfunctional family misuse their strength and power to intimidate the children who come from a healthy family both physically and mentally. Furthermore, envious people might be perfectionists who constantly want the best for themselves. Whenever they cannot bear the accomplishment of others, they bully them to make themselves feel superior. As a result, bullying is the consequence of jealousy and envy.
As a conclusion, a wounded family may lead a child to develop hatred in themselves which causes them to be involved in bullying cases whether inside or outside the school compound. Children will often feel neglected in a dysfunctional family which will eventually make them feel unhappy and isolated over times. After years of keeping the feeling in themselves until they have grown big enough, then that is when the emotional feelings are being converted to envious and jealous of others. Consequently, they will make a negative decision by abusing their feeling and strength to bully others. Therefore, it is parents’ responsibility to ensure that their children are nurtured well both physically and mentally because behind every bully are the parents (Jelena, 2017).
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